So we'll re-read, with great care, 110-127. I learned from our discussion today, and I am grateful to you all for that. There is no simple solution to these things. (As in the example: If I insist on "Dr. Campolo," I help prop up several forms of harmful power, and I benefit from them. If I insist on "Chris," I help prop up several forms of harmful power, and I benefit from them.) If in some ways our "domains" are so intertwined that any move in mine shapes the possible moves in yours, and vice versa, then we may constantly be fighting for what we each think of as the domain-respect due us. (I think that that was Anna's point.) And if that's possible, then it may be that there is a constant anger, often submerged, but always there, and justified. I got nothing for that. I very strongly feel the pull of the idea that I can ultimately only reduce the pain I cause by going away. Even such a (wholesome) separatism is an...
While dying her hair brown in response to a problem at work was a tangible option for this woman, I feel sad for her. I understand that in a male dominated industry it can be valuable to forgo traditionally feminine aspects (heels, manicures, blowouts, dresses) I think it just contributes to the problem of men in the workplace not seeing a female as their equivalent. While androgynous clothing seems like a good "gender neutral" decision it seems to make her LESS womanly to fit into a male's schema of what a male authority should be. I also work in a male dominated space and feel the pressures she does to dress less "womanly" to avoid unwelcome remarks. Joke's on her- people who don't respect women will continue to devalue her for her anatomy or hit on her regardless of how she dresses her flesh prison. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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